My husband and i have been married for a little over 2 years, he has a close family bond with his older sister
well at first, we all got along great, and we all collectively decided to move her in with us.
BIG MISTAKE…
first thing she has absolutely no trust in anything or anyone.. major trust issues.
she is afraid of everything, t-storms, doctors,you name it, she is afraid of it… but now i think it’s an attention ploy.
we were in the apartment about 6 months… before these issues fully reared their ugly head.
she tried claiming, i was trying to kill her brother/my husband, by having him helping me prop up a mattress. (he has two heart stents?)and if i wanted to clean the bedroom, clean around things and not rearrange furniture? well if i’m not mistaken cardiac rehab is much more strenuous than propping up a mattress. and sex…. need i say more?
well in fact, i still have not gotten over that one,…. still to this day she has not said sorry for personally attacking me in front of my husband.
what the problem is is this.. we decided to go in thirds on this deal… well she will give a little more to a bill or say i will pay for this bill in whole because you are paying for this/ or you guys are going out of town, and then it happens, she expects something back from us, like she will leave the kitchen a wreck toast crumbs everywhere tea stains everywhere, and expect me to clean it up. i think she is trying to control us with money, it’s such an issue with her and us, when she cleans it’s her bathroom, and bedroom…. which leaves the rest of the apartment to me.
the latest incident, is the SIL couch..(where she sits).. my husband was playing with our cat Bella… when Bella reached her paw in between the seat cushions and pulled out a half of potato chip. my husband then tore off all of the cushions, and it was a buffet under there, potato chips, pretzels m&m’s, enough to fill a medium sized bag… totally gross! it was disgusting…. then again she could eat anyway she wants…because she thinks i will clean it up.
my husband wrote a note to her saying,” you know those vacuum bags you were stressing out about getting, this would be a great place to start.”
well she did clean it up, but now she has been avoiding him or us. i think she is pissed at us because we pointed out her piggishness.
there are plenty of more incidents, like burning big cigarette hole(s) in my decorative rug, and blaming my non smoking son for it.
yes this is the same woman who tried blaming me for trying killing my husband by propping up a mattress, here she is trying to burn the apartment down….uhmmmm hello?
i smoke too…. but i think with smoking, comes a great deal of responsibility, like fully extinguishing your cigarette. not letting it burn out and drop to the floor.
plenty of more incidences…. but i could write a book…
i just want my marriage back
i think we took on this deal way too soon in our marriage
late entry/ all of us are smokers….. he hides it from her sister, cause he does not want her to freak out on him.
i know i know…. it’s an unique living situation….:(